Human relationships are complicated nowadays. People can be both alone and not alone at the same time. Today, you can develop a relationship through technology, you don’t need to see the person anymore, and you just need to text them. A father can consider himself to be a good father if he text his child every day. This society has become so advanced to the point that people would rather text than to call. Even when at work, in a meeting, or in school, you notice people texting or googling in order not to be alone. Watch this clip and notice how Sherry Turkle explains what technology has done to this society. Being alone is viewed as a problem to people; it is for this reason that they seek connections. People use technology to feel better about themselves and their loneliness, but if you have alone time, you might actually end up alone, because this illusion that you are not alone because of technology is false. You need to learn to be alone, because if you are always hiding behind technology, you will never make a difference within yourself. Solitude must be appreciated, because it is important that every person has some alone time, without any illusionary connection to displace our thoughts. Self-reflection is essential for our development. When you are not allowing yourself to reflect, and assuming that you always need someone to talk to, you are not allowing a proper development, leading to feeling more alone and lost. Technology appeals to us most when we are most vulnerable. We are vulnerable because we have this illusion of friendship that technology offers. Since being alone seems like a problem that needs to be solved, we relate to technology to get that problem resolved. Why do we feel that being alone it is a problem to be solved? Being alone is truly essential to our soul; therefore we must stop feeling that there is something wrong with having time alone and embrace the time we have to be able to reflect about our lives and make the changes that are needed to be truly happy.
Who am I kidding? I am one of these people, I can’t do anything without being on the phone with someone or texting someone. I have definitely been working on it however and it seems to really bring realization to your life.
Keep in mind, alone time is good time. Stop these illusions, they only get you lost.